I am a feminist.
I’ve been a feminist for a canny few years now but its only now that that I’m starting to truly understand what that means and interact with the true meaning of the movement.
Along the way, I’ve encountered some truly beautiful articles and books that have made me state my stance with pride. One of them was Caitlin Moran’s How to be a Woman, which I promptly demanded all my friends and family read and started discussing it with those who had already experienced it.
According to the blurb, the book is “part memoir, part rant” and asks all the important questions:
“It’s a good time to be a woman: we have the vote and the Pill, and we haven’t been burnt as witches since 1727. However, a few nagging questions do remain…
Why are we supposed to get Brazilians? Should we use Botox? Do men secretly hate us? And why does everyone ask you when you’re going to have a baby?”
Moran doesn’t hold back in her book and there were plenty of moments when I shifted in my seat with discomfot. There were moments when I was wildly disagreeing with her and moments when I had to stop myself from shouting “YES! Sometimes else gets it!” at the top of my voice. There were moments that made me question why anyone would ever want to have a baby (if you’ve read it, you’ll know what I mean).
The main reason I fell in love with this book was Moran’s honesty. Whether or not you liked what she was saying, you had to admire the willingness with which she was asking the questions. Because she doesn’t give you answers. She doesn’t neatly package her experiences as a woman or a feminist because life doesn’t let her. It doesn’t let any of us.
But what life does do is let us take part in the important discussions. It lets us ask questions, and learn from our experiences and it lets us keep working for a change we might not get to see immediately.
How to be a Woman is an invitation to a discussion that more of us should join. I’m so glad that I did.
Have you read How to be a Woman yet? What did you think of it?